my dream birth

my dream birth is one where i have a healthy baby, and preferably no episiotomy, because the thought of that grosses me right out.

i was just reading the birth story of a woman who went overdue, then didn't dilate despite inducement, then ended up having to get a c-section.

now, i wouldn't want to get a c-section, for the simple reason that i wouldn't want to have any kind of surgery. no knives, please.

but the big concern of this woman (and others i have read) is that she wasn't getting "the birth she'd always dreamed of."

am i the only pregnant lady who hasn't spent any time dreaming about the birth? to me the point is the baby, not the delivery. i was the same with our wedding - yes, we wanted it to be lovely and for everyone to have a good time, but it wasn't worth freaking out over. as long as we ended up married at the end of the day, that was all that really mattered.

the whole ideal-birth thing just seems like training to be one of those crazy-cult mommies, who fret over junior's every moment, competing to get into the right nursery school and to see how many hours a day of extra-curricular activities they can schedule.

it just all seems so pointless.

i mean, some women even talk about "grieving" their imperfect birth experiences. of "mourning" the "loss" of that experience. dude, you got a baby. be happy for crying out loud!

in other lighter news, i did some preggo shopping yesterday. no "official" maternity wear yet for this one (i'm still mad at thyme maternity - never shop there), just went to the dreaded winners and picked up a few things a size or too larger than i normally wear (mostly mediums, a few larges, and actually one small). i picked up a bunch of those 80s-style ruched t-shirts with the band at the bottom that i don't like at all, but all the kids downtown are wearing. i figure they'll keep things discreetly camouflaged for a while. it was so nice to be able to get dressed today and not find everything just that much too small!